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Women are waking up to how life with The Pill doesn’t make the life they want.

Pharma has failed women who want to work with their fertility. Decades of marketing, regulation, and hit pieces have obscured natural methods.

But times are changing.

Impeding that change is a wall this up-and-coming generation runs into. Leaving them no idea what they can do to work with the signals their bodies give them.

So let’s tackle a couple of misconceptions.

#1: All women have a 28-day cycle

Taking the average performance of a population is a starting point. All we have to do is set our expectations and we can focus on other things that are more important.

But applying the average to the entire population is harmful. If we’re not performing to standard, something is wrong with us. And it needs to be corrected, right?

OR, we can realize an average comes from a range of values. In this case, women’s cycles range 26-35 days.

And they can change month-to-month. More so across different phases of life. Even restarting halfway through.

If you’re making choices based on population averages, you may miss your window to grow your family. And medical interventions will throw everything off.

#2: Biology must be managed from the outside

Have you ever noticed as soon as you start on one intervention, a host of treatments follows?

You want to delay pregnancy, so you start taking The Pill. You stop taking it when you’re ready, but your body forgot how to regulate hormones on its own.

And may not for another 3-4 years.

After which point you give up trying to conceive the old-fashioned way and spend five-figures plus months to years of heartache on IVF.

This cycle has become so entrenched, I’m hearing that 16-year olds want to freeze their eggs.

What they don’t hear is each cycle has only a 4-6 day window where you can get pregnant. A window with telltale signs it’s coming.

But here’s the thing that makes it work: the man has to listen to where the woman is in her cycle. Those conversations balance power in a relationship. They offer windows into when you can be intimate so one spouse doesn’t feel left out.

#3: No room for mistakes

Then what happens after you have the child you want? It’s right back to pills, implants, or hysterectomy. Because you don’t want to overwhelm your mental and monetary resources.

Things that, if you haven’t noticed, provide stable recurring revenue for doctors’ offices and hospitals at a massive scale.

Beyond that, children are such an enormous responsibility that we have to prevent anything from encroaching on our bubble. Especially another one with its own needs that overlap with the one you just had.

EXCEPT:

• I’ve never met a new mother who was less than fanatically motivated to provide for her new baby and…
• breastfeeding can delay the resumption of her cycle for up to two years.

So when you’ve done the work to understand your cycles and you have the conversations with your spouse, you already have all the tools you need to manage the risk of family size to your sanity and finances.

Fertility More Fulfilling

Remember when we were encouraged to open our minds and try new things? The whole point was to allow room for variations from normal. Not give ourselves over for convenience and feed a medical industrial complex that drained our wallets and dreams.

I know. Support from your healthcare provider comes hard when you mention you don’t want their interventions.

But even though the up-and-coming generation doesn’t have ready access to a roadmap to their relationships that gives them more say, there are still families like mine who flew under the radar with a story to tell.

A story that allowed us to space five kids each 2-1/2 years apart, plus or minus a couple months. One that allowed for my wife to recover and bond. One that kept kids close enough to bond without fighting over critical baby needs.

So if that sounds like the experience you want to have, subscribe for more content and share with your friends. I’m looking forward to this journey with you.

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